Away with Fairy Tale Endings
Tap Away the Fairy Tale Ending ~ EFT w/ Nathan Martin - YouTube: Tap Away the Fairy Tale Ending ~ EFT w/ Nathan Martin
When I accept that I am in relationships to heal and grow, I am at peace. Even when the relationship ends, I am not angry and devastated. Of cause I am sad, but most of all, I am thankful. Thank You! I am sorry it ended, but it was time to end. I still care about you. I am still your friend. We grew. You enriched my life. You taught me all you dared to. Now our roads part. I move on and somebody else will teach me now. You move on and somebody else will teach you now.
Thank you for allowing me in you life for a while and thank you for being in my life for a while.
Comfortable income
Even
though, I have become comfortable with a lack of income, I love and accept
myself.
Even
though, I have become comfortable with a lack of income, I love and accept
myself.
Even
though, I have become comfortable with a lack of income, I love and accept
myself.
Even
though, I have become comfortable with a lack of income, I love and accept
myself.
Even though, I have become comfortable with a lack of
income, I love and accept myself.
Even though, I enjoy not having appointments, due dates, and
all that stress, I love and accept
myself.
Even though, it is nice not having to worry about being on
time for a client – What if, it is
fun to meet clients?
Even though, it is fun not having all that admin – What if, I actually enjoy that kind of
admin?
Even though, it is nice just to float around – Maybe, I would enjoy to be driven.
Even though, it is nice to have no responsibility – What if, it would feel good when I am responsible?
Even though, it is nice not having to meet expectations – Maybe, I would feel so pleased, when I
exceed expectations.
Even though, I have become used to feeling sorry for myself
– Perhaps, I may become used to feeling
proud of myself.
Even though, I have become comfortable with this way of
living – Maybe, I would LOVE living in
another way.
Even though, I have become comfortable with seeing myself as
a failure – What would happen, if I
see myself as a Success?
Even though, it is easier to play the victim and wait until
I win the lotto – How proud would I
be, if I MAKE a million?
Even though, this game of suffering somehow suits me – What if, I enjoy playing the game of success
more?
Even though, I find delight in punishing myself for pursuing
my dreams – Maybe, I can love and
forgive myself?
Even though, I find it necessary to satisfy the doom
prophets – Would it not be so
rewarding to break free from their doom and gloom?
Even though, I enjoy punishing my parents – Perhaps, I could grow and find healing by
forgiving them.
Even though, it is satisfying to blame my parents and to force
them to give me the care, which they did not give me when I was younger – What if, I can feel safe enough to get off
their laps and explore the world?
Even though I somehow benefit from this lack of income – Would it not be good to have income?
Copyright: 2011, by Lorraine Joubert, All Rights Reserved
The end of suffering - To be a blessing to myself!
This is an EFT tapping exercise - To learn more: EFT/Tapping video
Koekbak
Ek KAN bak, of in elk geval ek kon toe ek jonger was. Ek is nou nie ‘n bakster of kok wat resepte sal uitdink, of uit my kop uit bak nie, maar gee my ‘n resep en ek sal ‘n groot sukses daarvan maak. Die eerste keer word die resep tot op die letter nagevolg. Ek weier om ‘n nuwe resep te probeer as ek nie AL die bestanddele het nie. Na die eerste “op die letter navolg” van die resep sal ek dit aanpas of daarmee eksperimenteer.
Tog, ek kan die teleurstellings onthou – daardie dae wat ek in ‘n goeie bui is, baie lus is vir ‘n spesifieke gereg, en ‘n resep volg wat ek al voorheen met groot welslae gebak het. En tog, en tog is dit een groot reguit-asblik-toe-nie-eers-die-miere-wil-dit- hê-nie flater. Ek is teleurgesteld, in trane en huil die heel tyd terwyl ek die skottelgoed was. Ek sê vir myself, ek gaan nooit weer koek bak nie. Ek is hartseer, ongelukkig en teleurgesteld. Almal om my is vies vir my. Hulle probeer grappies maak of rede in my kop in praat, sodat ek tog nou net verstaan dit is nie so erg nie. Hoe harder hulle probeer om my teleurstelling weg te praat, hoe meer ongelukkig word ek. Ek kan net nie oor my ongelukkigheid kom nie, totdat hulle almal ophou, of ek myself in my kamer gaan toesluit.
Na, ek myself vasgehou het en my hart uitgesnik het, begin ek beter voel en kan ek terugskouing hou – waar het wat verkeerd gegaan? Gewoonlik kan ek nie “pin point” presies wat verkeerd gegaan het nie, alhoewel soms kan ek. Gewoonlik is dit egter meer vaag. Ek het die resep “for granted” geneem en nie gefokus op waarmee ek besig was nie. Die radio was hard aan, dalk het ek êrens ‘n rekenfout gemaak, ‘n mate verkeerd geneem, of te gou ‘n nuwe bestanddeel by geklits. Dalk, het ek ‘n bestanddeel uitgelaat. Ek kan nie my vinger op die presiese fout le nie, maar die oorsaak was dat ek te opgewonde was en nie mooi gekonsentreer het nie.
Of, dalk, het my ma in die kombuis gekom en iets wat ek gedoen het gekritiseer. Ek wou my vererg en teëstribbel, maar ek het besluit om eerder die vrede te bewaar, en het stilgebly. Ek het my energie gebruik om die kritiek binne te hou en nie die pyn te voel nie. Ek het dus nie gevloei in die skeppingsproses nie, ‘n mate verkeerd geneem, ‘n rekenfout gemaak, ‘n bestanddeel uitgelaat of te gou bygevoeg. Ek kan nie die presiese fout bepaal nie, maar die oorsaak was dat ek my energie elders gefokus het, en nie in die skepping gevloei het nie.
Hierdie naweek was ek teleurgesteld tydens ‘n interaksie met ‘n vriend. Terugskouend kan ek sien hoe die hele proses van ‘n flater bak homself uitgespeel het. Ek was opgewonde en het uitgesien na die kuier. Ek is gekritiseer, maar in plaas daarvan om dadelik in opstand daarteen te kom, het ek stilgebly en die teleurstelling van die kritiek binne gehou. Ons het gekuier, maar die vorige goeie tye vanselfsprekend aanvaar en nie mooi gefokus op wat in die nou besig is om te gebeur en daarvolgens te vloei nie. Die resultaat was ‘n teleurstellende flater. My onmiddellike reaksie is om te huil, maar ek word dadelik vertel ek mag nie huil nie, kom net oor dit, grappies word gemaak om my aandag van die teleurstelling af te trek en ek word gesê ek is verkeerd om teleurgesteld te voel. Dit is verkeerd om te voel ek wil myself in ‘n kluister opsluit en nooit weer enige vriende naby my toelaat nie.
Uiteindelik het dit aand geword en ek kon in my bed lê en my hart uitsnik. Die volgende dag kon ek terugkyk en terugskouing hou. Waar het dit verkeerd gegaan? Wat het ek verkeerd gedoen? Dit is nie so eenvoudig, om my vinger te lê op… “hy het…” “ek het…” Ek kan sien dat daar ‘n interaksie tussen ons plaasgevind het. Hy het uit sy bagasie opgetree, ek het uit my bagasie reageer. My verhoudings patrone is vasgelê. Soms voel dit vir my asof dit in klip uitgekap is en ek nooit daaruit kan ontsnap nie.
Tog, een patroon is al verander… ek kan terugkyk en nie net in woede die ander party blameer en nie, maar met nuuskierigheid daarna kyk en sien watter verhoudings patroon ek in hierdie situasie uitgeleef het.
Ek weet ek sal ‘n manier moet vind om nie kritiek te ignoreer, of die teleurstelling of onregverdigheid daarvan te onderdruk nie…
Copyright: 2012, by Lorraine Joubert, All Rights Reserved
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Tog, ek kan die teleurstellings onthou – daardie dae wat ek in ‘n goeie bui is, baie lus is vir ‘n spesifieke gereg, en ‘n resep volg wat ek al voorheen met groot welslae gebak het. En tog, en tog is dit een groot reguit-asblik-toe-nie-eers-die-miere-wil-dit- hê-nie flater. Ek is teleurgesteld, in trane en huil die heel tyd terwyl ek die skottelgoed was. Ek sê vir myself, ek gaan nooit weer koek bak nie. Ek is hartseer, ongelukkig en teleurgesteld. Almal om my is vies vir my. Hulle probeer grappies maak of rede in my kop in praat, sodat ek tog nou net verstaan dit is nie so erg nie. Hoe harder hulle probeer om my teleurstelling weg te praat, hoe meer ongelukkig word ek. Ek kan net nie oor my ongelukkigheid kom nie, totdat hulle almal ophou, of ek myself in my kamer gaan toesluit.
Na, ek myself vasgehou het en my hart uitgesnik het, begin ek beter voel en kan ek terugskouing hou – waar het wat verkeerd gegaan? Gewoonlik kan ek nie “pin point” presies wat verkeerd gegaan het nie, alhoewel soms kan ek. Gewoonlik is dit egter meer vaag. Ek het die resep “for granted” geneem en nie gefokus op waarmee ek besig was nie. Die radio was hard aan, dalk het ek êrens ‘n rekenfout gemaak, ‘n mate verkeerd geneem, of te gou ‘n nuwe bestanddeel by geklits. Dalk, het ek ‘n bestanddeel uitgelaat. Ek kan nie my vinger op die presiese fout le nie, maar die oorsaak was dat ek te opgewonde was en nie mooi gekonsentreer het nie.
Of, dalk, het my ma in die kombuis gekom en iets wat ek gedoen het gekritiseer. Ek wou my vererg en teëstribbel, maar ek het besluit om eerder die vrede te bewaar, en het stilgebly. Ek het my energie gebruik om die kritiek binne te hou en nie die pyn te voel nie. Ek het dus nie gevloei in die skeppingsproses nie, ‘n mate verkeerd geneem, ‘n rekenfout gemaak, ‘n bestanddeel uitgelaat of te gou bygevoeg. Ek kan nie die presiese fout bepaal nie, maar die oorsaak was dat ek my energie elders gefokus het, en nie in die skepping gevloei het nie.
Hierdie naweek was ek teleurgesteld tydens ‘n interaksie met ‘n vriend. Terugskouend kan ek sien hoe die hele proses van ‘n flater bak homself uitgespeel het. Ek was opgewonde en het uitgesien na die kuier. Ek is gekritiseer, maar in plaas daarvan om dadelik in opstand daarteen te kom, het ek stilgebly en die teleurstelling van die kritiek binne gehou. Ons het gekuier, maar die vorige goeie tye vanselfsprekend aanvaar en nie mooi gefokus op wat in die nou besig is om te gebeur en daarvolgens te vloei nie. Die resultaat was ‘n teleurstellende flater. My onmiddellike reaksie is om te huil, maar ek word dadelik vertel ek mag nie huil nie, kom net oor dit, grappies word gemaak om my aandag van die teleurstelling af te trek en ek word gesê ek is verkeerd om teleurgesteld te voel. Dit is verkeerd om te voel ek wil myself in ‘n kluister opsluit en nooit weer enige vriende naby my toelaat nie.
Uiteindelik het dit aand geword en ek kon in my bed lê en my hart uitsnik. Die volgende dag kon ek terugkyk en terugskouing hou. Waar het dit verkeerd gegaan? Wat het ek verkeerd gedoen? Dit is nie so eenvoudig, om my vinger te lê op… “hy het…” “ek het…” Ek kan sien dat daar ‘n interaksie tussen ons plaasgevind het. Hy het uit sy bagasie opgetree, ek het uit my bagasie reageer. My verhoudings patrone is vasgelê. Soms voel dit vir my asof dit in klip uitgekap is en ek nooit daaruit kan ontsnap nie.
Tog, een patroon is al verander… ek kan terugkyk en nie net in woede die ander party blameer en nie, maar met nuuskierigheid daarna kyk en sien watter verhoudings patroon ek in hierdie situasie uitgeleef het.
Ek weet ek sal ‘n manier moet vind om nie kritiek te ignoreer, of die teleurstelling of onregverdigheid daarvan te onderdruk nie…
Copyright: 2012, by Lorraine Joubert, All Rights Reserved
Homepage
The end of suffering - To be a blessing to myself!
Happy New Year!
May you in 2012:
• Learn what relationships are really about, and uncover the hidden land mines we bring to our partnerships.
• Learn what you need to know, and what you can do to improve your chances for finding and keeping love.
• Work on the things in yourself that need to be changed in order to have the partnership you yearn for.
• Be willing and able to work to achieve deep and lasting love.
• Transcend the cultural myth that intimate relationships just magically happen, once you find the right person.
• Be committed to becoming, rather than looking for, or changing the right person.
• Be committed to changing those parts, which are preventing you from succeeding in creating an intimate partnership.
Happy Imago year!
• Learn what relationships are really about, and uncover the hidden land mines we bring to our partnerships.
• Learn what you need to know, and what you can do to improve your chances for finding and keeping love.
• Work on the things in yourself that need to be changed in order to have the partnership you yearn for.
• Be willing and able to work to achieve deep and lasting love.
• Transcend the cultural myth that intimate relationships just magically happen, once you find the right person.
• Be committed to becoming, rather than looking for, or changing the right person.
• Be committed to changing those parts, which are preventing you from succeeding in creating an intimate partnership.
Happy Imago year!
Bridge over troubled waters
My psyche is so powerful that it even tuned me into another song, to prepare me for what was ahead...
A new version of this oldie played repeatedly on the radio. Eventually, I was putting my own CD on repeat at this track. I was being prepared for the 14th of October 2010, the day I had to remember a Dr. Philism; "You teach people how to treat you". I was about to succumb to rationality, when I heard his voice. I then lay me down like a bridge over troubled water...
The water has not yet calmed down; I continue to be my own bridge over troubled water...
Lyrics | Simon And Garfunkel lyrics - Bridge Over Troubled Water lyrics
A new version of this oldie played repeatedly on the radio. Eventually, I was putting my own CD on repeat at this track. I was being prepared for the 14th of October 2010, the day I had to remember a Dr. Philism; "You teach people how to treat you". I was about to succumb to rationality, when I heard his voice. I then lay me down like a bridge over troubled water...
The water has not yet calmed down; I continue to be my own bridge over troubled water...
Lyrics | Simon And Garfunkel lyrics - Bridge Over Troubled Water lyrics
I Have A Dream
Last year, around June, I played this song of ABBA repeatedly. I shared it on Facebook; I mailed the link to my friends. Again, my psyche knew that something big was lying ahead.
I was dreaming, I was suffering, my psyche knew I was heading at a crossroads and that there would come a time that I would have to lie me down and cross the stream.
My psyche chose this song from my childhood to prepare me for that day in October and this long year…
“When I know the time is right for me I’ll cross the stream - I have a dream” it played in mind day in and day out…
Today, I can say, I crossed the stream, because I have a dream…
I was dreaming, I was suffering, my psyche knew I was heading at a crossroads and that there would come a time that I would have to lie me down and cross the stream.
My psyche chose this song from my childhood to prepare me for that day in October and this long year…
“When I know the time is right for me I’ll cross the stream - I have a dream” it played in mind day in and day out…
Today, I can say, I crossed the stream, because I have a dream…
An EFT tapping exercise: On suffering
This tapping is based on pages 9 and 10 of The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle.
Even though I feel alone and scared, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I feel alone and scared, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I feel alone and scared, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I feel alone and scared, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I suffer, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I have this suffering, I love and forgive myself.
Even though I do this suffering, I choose to be a blessing to myself.
Even though I feel alone, isolated and fragmented, I choose to feel connected and loved.
Even though it feels, as if my life is fragmented and as if parts of it are isolated and alone, I choose to experience the connection.
Even though I feel fragmented and as if parts of me are isolated and alone, I choose to be aligned to my truth.
Even though I am in conflict with my world and the people in it, I choose to find opportunities of connection.
Even though parts of me are in conflict with each other, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I feel alone and scared, I choose to feel connected and loved.
Copyright: 2011, by Lorraine Joubert, All Rights Reserved
The end of suffering - To be a blessing to myself!
This is an EFT tapping exercise - To learn more: EFT/Tapping video
Opening the box
This piece is based on pages 9 and 10 of The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle.
If I look into myself, I shall find the gold. It may be difficult to pry the lid open. It takes time, effort and help from others. However, every time I open the lid, I find gold, Every time it is worth the trouble. Every time I am elated. Every time I am satisfied with what I find.
So often I am afraid I will open a can of worms, Pandora’s Box, or something that should rather have stayed inside a box. Yet, every time I, and the content of the box is happy that I opened the box…
Copyright: 2011, by Lorraine Joubert, All Rights Reserved
The end of suffering - To be a blessing to myself!
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